KNTV SEX

PROGRAMME 9: FANTASY, AROUSAL AND DESIRE

ACTIVITIES

Guidance

Teachers should refer to the general Guidance and undertake a group agreement before viewing the programmes and undertaking the activities.

Discussion

• For centuries, people in the UK have shied away from the topics of fantasy, arousal and desire. Why is this? What have been the influences on society that have made these issues (and that of pleasure) something of a taboo?
• These topics are not often covered in sex and relationships programmes for schools. Why do you think this is? How important is it to talk about these aspects of sex, as well as contraception, STIs, pregnancy, and so on?
• A controversial topic raised in the programme is pornography. Is it just 'harmless fun' or something far more exploitative and damaging to both men and women?
• Fantasy, arousal and desire are all healthy, natural parts of a person's sexuality. But how important is consent in a sexual relationship? Discuss the issue of power within relationships and the importance of consent in a healthy sex life. What could you do if you were feeling pressurised or controlled within a relationship?
• Also consider the use of drugs and alcohol among young people. Why do they often use drugs or alcohol before sexual activity? Do drugs and alcohol help heighten desire or arousal? Do they make sexual activity 'easier'? What are the risks involved with drug and alcohol use when it comes to sexual health?

Activity ideas

• Consider the following definition of sexual health (from the World Health Organisation):
  'Sexual health is a state of physical, emotional, mental and social wellbeing in relation to sexuality; it is not merely the absence of disease, dysfunction or infirmity. Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled.'
  Work in groups to analyse this definition:
  – What is meant by these phrases: 'physical, emotional, mental and social wellbeing'; 'a positive and respectful approach… free of coercion'; 'the sexual rights of all people'?
  – Do students think this is a helpful definition?
  – How important is the inclusion of pleasure?
  – Do young people in the UK enjoy sexual health in this sense?
• Introduce the idea of sensuality, and how the senses can be stimulated without sexual intercourse – especially through touch, but also through sight, hearing, taste and smell. Revisit the idea of 'safer' sex without intercourse. What are the ways young people can express their feelings for each other without intercourse (for example, kissing, sensual massage, mutual masturbation).